How do people go about building a healthy relationship? All too
often in todays society you will see two people get together, start a
relationship and then split up after a few months. I think that many people do
not look at what a relationship is, or what they really want from it. It usually
starts with a sexual attraction and while sex can be very enjoyable it is not
enough to build a healthy relationship on.
What is a Relationship?
Trying to build something without knowing what it is that you
are trying to build is kind of silly. If an engineer just started to build a
bridge without planning it out properly then the bridge would soon collapse.
This is what happens to most relationships. A bridge can not just be built with
nuts, bolts and steel, it needs a good foundation. A relationship can not just
be built on sex, it too needs a good foundation.
A relationship could be considered to be a bridge between two
people, if it is built solidly then it will last. In my other pages you will
find that a healthy relationship is built on Love, Trust and good Communication.
Without these as the foundation it will collapse. And just as a bridge needs
continual maintenance so does a relationship.
To build a strong relationship you must start to think as a
couple. You should consider yourselves to be one unit, WE, not me and you. It
has been stated before that a relationship should not be a 50/50 affair but
100/100. Take responsibility for everything as a couple.
If your partner makes a mistake then it should be 'how do we fix
it'. Blame should never come into it, none of us are perfect and blame only
aggravates things. So the meal got burnt, big deal, go out for supper together.
The car did not get fixed properly, stay home and watch a movie together.
Remember that your partner is a part of you, a part of your
relationship. When they are hurt so are you. Do not look for faults, build on
each others strengths. A healthy relationship is very powerful, two people
working together can achieve incredible success, far more than two people
working alone. Whatever your partner wants to do give them your whole hearted
Sharing and Caring
Any task that a person has to do can be a chore or it can be
fun. When you work as a team the burden is automatically lighter and if you make
it a game to play then it will bring you closer together. Even housework is
enjoyable if you have someone there laughing and joking with you. Two people
working in harmony is a beautiful thing. It is harder to play by yourself.
So share and care, be a couple not two individuals and build a
healthy relationship. Have fun.
To get a more complete view of how to build and maintain an
exciting relationship see
What is Love,
Communication in Relationships.
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